NVC class (SoFA)
2023/09/28 14:00
This class is 3 weeks long, 2 hours per week
Jerry Kock-Gonzalez is Host
Participants
Content
Slide Show
- prosocial movement
- Challenge program- Say no to that which hurts
- Constructive Program- how do we build now what we want to be a part of?
- The Internal Dynamic Program- how am I showing up in the programs>
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Post quote
Like a child feeding a hungry duck, or someone you don’t know falling down you naturally support each other
Needs is the central thing to understand about nvc
purpose, love, connection, support, interests, physical needs (air, food, water, shelter), contribution, cooperation, autonomy and choice, need to belong, opportunities to grow, safety, challenge and ease, shared reality, common ground,
power as capacity
We all share the same universal human needs, we all have
Control is more a strategy than a need, money also
reward, pleasure, rest, relaxation, stimulation,
Difference between strategy and needs
These are only strategies towards getting needs met
Our emotions out us into motion
Triggers rather than causes. We must be responsible for how we react.
Responsibility is always with us.
This is the interpretation of the other person’s behavior.
I think you are attacking me, Judging me, These are all thoughts
Smart is not a feeling, stupid is not a feeling
I feel proud is a feeling
Missed slide
rather than judging something as right and wrong
How effective is this behavior in meeting my needs?
from blame to curiosity
How can I sell you a strategy to meet a need?
Legality is not correlated to human needs
Does the organization have a need for Legality?
Its a strategy for continued existence not a need
you thought your life would be improved by a want but they are unfulfilled which leads to more wants and so on and that person isn’t clear on their needs so they follow thoughts
Risk means some needs isn’t going to be fulfilled so how do you weigh that?
Story of Jerry’s Life
Needs-
What is something that is alive for you, something that is unfinished with that your willing to share?
What are your/ my feelings and needs?
Am I connected with myself? or am I out there?
Do some journalling
Is there anything left over or activated for me?
What do I think my needs are?
What do I do about this?