Advance Facilitation Class (Input Dates)

drama triangle -

First is Victim (Poor Me)

Poor me, everything sucks

Second is Rescuer (I’m here to help you)

When people see something that is wrong and then stand up for someone or something. Can border on harmful if not getting better. They get something out of being needed and keep things where they are so they constantly need help

Complete with Persecutor ( This is your fault)

Pointers out of blame

Relationships

Victim needs persecutor so they can confirm their story

Persecutor needs someone to pick on

Rescuer needs persecutor so they can have a bad person to fight against

The persecutor needs the others to blame

The empowerment Dynamic +

Creator

you are an agent who can take care of yourself

Coach

Coach others to make their own choices and decisions

Challenger

Pointing out that the plan isn’t good enough

It’s interesting to consider how this dynamic plays out in many ways

Exercises

#1

Prompt: Poor me

#2

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Prompt: Someone hardened that people don’t do enough

#3

Prompt: You look tired so let me change things to make it easier on you without asking

Time - 25 mins per scenario

Group 1

3rds scenario

Whose business is it?

Who actually owns and operates this?

Holacracy, Can’t object on other people’s behalf

If aim is produce cell phone and someone says it poluting the river, there is no river in the aim, so screw your river its not in the aim

Incorporate a policy in the aim

either willy nilly or strict, want to be in the middle so how do you balance?

How to drop proposals?

If you say this proposal is a none starter. This is going nowhere, how do you get out of it?

Then you can propose to drop the proposal.

Which Ideally the proposer drops it, if not the facilitator needs to offer a proposal to drop the proposal.

All this seems tedious up front but its way better than tripping when you are triying to run